I am a recovering people pleaser. Growing up, my mom would obsess about what others thought. She assumed the neighbours were always watching, scrutinizing our every move (and every outfit).
They weren’t, but it was hard to change her mind.
Whenever I did something unexpected or out of turn, she would say, “What would people think if they knew you did that?”
She would also overlook her own needs to please everyone around her. Yes, she would secretly complain about it behind closed doors, but in the outside world she was happy to do whatever anyone needed of her.
It was hard not to let those thoughts become ingrained: It took me a long time to undo that kind of thinking.
But going into business for myself forced me to reflect on that kind of upbringing. You can’t do it all, and you quickly realize how many people want a piece of your time, attention, or intellect.
The world of tarot readings and intuitive services is a slippery place all on its own. While you will meet many amazing...
About five years ago, I shared here that I would be pulling back on my astrology writings.
At the time, I had recently finished a contract as a horoscope writer for a national magazine. The magazine was in flux (it has since folded, like many other media outlets) and it felt like the right time to step back and think about where I wanted to put my energy next.
I was also having a lot of mixed feelings about astrology. I often shared astrological insights here in my newsletter, which I loved writing.
Astrology was also booming in popularity at the time. Which seemed like a good moment to be writing about it, right?
The problem was that I was noticing a lot of anxiety coming through my client roster. I was offering 1:1 astrological consultations at the time – something else I loved doing – but more and more I was seeing a lot of fear come through the door.
A lot of people were seeking out astrology readings to gain a deeper understanding of their charts. Often, the fear they were br...
How are you? With so much going on in the world, it’s been hard for a lot of us to focus.
No matter what you’re trying to focus on, or what you’re moving through, I hope you are hanging in there <3
There is also a lot going on astrologically, with some planets moving back and forth between Aries and Pisces. Yesterday, at 8am Eastern time, Neptune moved into the sign of Aries for the first time since the 1800s.
Venus went retrograde in Aries on March 3, and slipped back into the sign of Pisces just a few days ago, on Thursday, March 27.
And Mercury also slid back into Pisces’ waters on Saturday, March 29, the same day at the solar eclipse and new moon in Aries.
There is a lot of symbolism to wade through with these motions. Once Venus and Mercury both go direct again in April, they will eventually find their ways back into Aries, picking up where they left off several weeks ago.
What can we make of this?
Aries is fire and Pisces is water.
Aries wants to act and Pisces wants to d...
The Devil card has been coming for a lot of my clients so far this year. It’s also been a recurring theme in the workshops I’ve been running, especially around questions about creative and emotional expansion.
It’s particularly common to turn to tarot with these types of questions.
“How can I start saying no more often so that I have more time for myself?”
“How can I make more room for my creative projects, instead of always putting them off to the side?”
“How can I experience more space in my schedule for spontaneity and discovery?”
“How can I start to transition out of my toxic job and into more fulfilling work?”
When the Devil shows up in relation to questions like these, it can feel jarring, especially if the querent (or the reader) isn’t expecting to see the Devil in this instance.
But very often, these questions are rooted in feeling stuck. And that’s when the Devil makes itself known.
“The Devil is in the details,” the saying goes, reminding us that sometimes we find our...
Lately I have been thinking about how important it is to give ourselves something to look forward to, and to continue to focus on pouring energy into things that feel inspiring.
I think that when we all work on putting good into the world – whether that be through your creativity, acts of kindness, spiritual gifts, or anything else that lights you up – it makes a difference in the world. All of these things have a ripple effect.
A couple of years ago, I read Julia Cameron’s book Walking in This World. If you’re familiar with Cameron’s work, she wrote the popular book The Artist’s Way about creative process. Walking in This World is a later title of hers, which talks about how to sustain and maintain your creativity once you’ve gotten started.
In it, Cameron wrote about how important it can be to maintain a creative practice, even when it feels hard and life is busy. Her reasoning is that putting energy into doing something you enjoy gives you energy back.
I needed to hear that when...
I'm curious: Have you ever used ChatGPT or other A.I. apps to learn tarot?
If so, how did it go?Â
I ask because I've noticed more mentions of ChatGPT in relation to learning tarot and astrology this season. In 2023, I wrote a blog about whether we should be concerned that A.I. could replace real-life tarot readers and other diviners. At the time, ChatGPT was becoming more commonplace and there were a lot of murmurings in the tarot community about what it might mean for our industry as time goes on.Â
People were, and still are, wondering: Will tarot decks with A.I. generated art become the norm? Will tarot illustrators be replaced?Â
What if people turn to ChatGPT as an oracle?Â
At the time, I wasn't too worried. I'm still not.Â
Yes, we have to pay attention to technological advances. Whether we participate in them or not, it's always smart to stay in the know about where innovation is headed.
I've been hearing more and more about Chat GPT being used to create content, or to generate...
We’re nearing the end of the calendar year which means a lot of us are turning to tarot to ask, “What’s coming up in the New Year?"
Even though there’s always a lot of back and forth in the tarot community about whether or not to use tarot as a predictive tool, the reality is that a large percentage of tarot querents ask predictive questions.Â
I think where readers sometimes hesitate with predictions is when we feel like we’re under pressure to be all-seeing and all-knowing.
When I got my first tarot deck, I assumed readings were completely predictive, and expected the cards to send me visions of the future. (Yes, I was very disappointed when it didn’t work out that way.)
That assumption blocked me for a long time, especially because it made me feel inadequate as a reader.Â
It took time, practice and reflection for me to understand how I wanted to approach predictive readings, and to develop a framework for myself to operate within whenever predictive questions landed on the table...
One of the most challenging things a reader can do is read at a busy event. When you have a line-up of people waiting to a get a complimentary five-minute reading, it really puts the pressure on.
Event hosts usually hire tarot readers to add something extra to the evening: They want to treat their guests to something different, and they want to enhance the atmosphere.
But I find that event hosts often underestimate how popular readings are, especially when the host is covering the cost for the guests. A free reading? Yes, please!
If you haven’t read tarot at a big party – and I’m talking about events that are open to the public – you can expect to have more demand than you can realistically accommodate within an evening. People will sometimes spend their entire night waiting in line for a quick reading, forgoing any other enjoyments the event offers.
You can also expect the usual suspects of questions: People will often ask whether you see them finding love any time soon, or whether th...
As I've been promoting my new book this season, I've had a few people ask me about using tarot for creative purposes. This is one of my favourite ways to use tarot, especially when I get to read for clients who are emerging or established artists.Â
Talking about the ways in which divination can generate ideas or crystallize obscure concepts is something I would love to share more about in the future. There is so much tarot can do when we get curious about our lives and creative with our questions.Â
One question I've had recently is whether I use tarot to help me decide which creative projects to pursue.Â
The answer, for me at least, is no: I don't base my inspiration against the tarot, at least when it comes to whether I should pursue a new idea or not.Â
No matter the topic, there can be a tendency to want to ask whether something will work out or be worthwhile. Everyone wants to write the next bestseller or hit single.Â
We all like to wonder, "What if I'm onto something here?"Â
...Do you ever sit down and reflect on how much has changed since you started making tarot a part of your life?  Â
When I think back to where I was when I decided to commit to this path, I can’t believe the difference between where I started and where I’ve ended up. Â
I used to be searching for something that I couldn’t quite articulate. All I knew was that I had an inner discomfort, an ongoing sense that things weren’t quite what they should be. Â
Back then, I had a challenging job in a downtown office. I used to walk to work every day asking, “What am I supposed to be doing?” Â
That question led me to a series of readers. I consulted astrologers, cartomancers, psychics, channelers… Slowly, each reading chipped away at my big, nebulous questions: Â
“How can I break away from the fears that keep me tied to things I know I don’t want to be doing?” Â
“What is the universe trying to tell me?” Â
“What am I meant to be doing with my life?” Â
When I decided to commit to learning tarot m...
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